On Thursday, December 30th, I had my first home study meeting. I must say on Wednesday I was freaking out a bit. I called my friend Melissa who has adopted and asked about her home study. She had a different experience then I did since her's was done on the phone while I have someone coming to my house. Melissa did help me feel better. She helped me think through some answers and told me what she thought they may ask me. While it was helpful I was still a ball of nerves. I knew I still had stuff to clean up but was in one of those moods that I didn't want to do it. Like if I didn't clean up the meeting wouldn't happen. Not that I did not want to have my meeting but the unknown is scary and having to sit and talk with someone I don't know for two hours about very personal things was unnerving to me.
So, I slept okay but got up the next morning and finished the last touches on the house. Even though she said she was not coming to do a white glove exam, you still want your house to look good. The meeting was scheduled for 12 p.m. and I am waiting. At 12:05 the phone rings and it's her. My first thought is we can not reschedule this meeting. I can't handle that but luckily she was only running late. When she arrives she is so nice and that helps put me at ease. She asks questions about where my smoke detectors, fire extinguishers and medicines are kept. We talk about why I want to adopt and what things would be non-negotiables for me. I basically want a healthy baby. She even asks me what type of man I am looking for in my life. Since I am adopting, some people think I have given up on men. That is not true but my thought is if I don't meet someone until I'm too old to have kids, I want to have had a kid. Does that make sense? When she asks me about the type of man I like my first thought is are you going to find me a man too? Wouldn't that be great? Two for one type deal. Adopt a family. :)
She then walks around my house. She loves the room that will be the babies. I love it too. It's nice a big and bright even with brown wall paint. We were trying to figure out how big it is and she actually walked it off. Next we go to my room. This has been a point of worry for me because the popcorn is coming off and I am still in the process of fixing it. It is just a nasty job. She doesn't even see it. I don't know how but that was a relief. Next, she has to meet the dogs. Another worry spot. Sadie and Sampson are the sweetest dogs. They would never hurt anyone but they jump. Luckily, my deck is where I can fence them off. They did not get to jump on her. She loved them and thought they were great. Sigh of relief!
We spent two hours talking about life and taking a full family history. Who knew there was so much information I could tell about my life? We are in the process of setting up another meeting. I am not sure what else I have to tell her. There is not that much going on in my life. At least this next meeting I will not be as anxious. At least, I hope I won't be as anxious as the first meeting. Thanks to all of you who called and asked me how it went. I'll let you know when the next one is going to happen.
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