This past Thursday, I had my second home study visit. After talking for two hours the last time, I had no idea what to expect for this one. It was shorter then the last one and a lot more laid back. Cindy, my home study lady, gave me lot of resources for adoption and for after the adoption. I gave her some financial forms and then we talked about different adoption stories. We talked a little more about when I would need a will. Who would have thought I would need one so soon? I guess it's something I have taken for granted but when I have a child, I will need to make sure they are taken care of if something happens to me. That means I need to start thinking about who I will choose for a guardian for my child, just in case. Hard decisions ahead!
Here is the controversial part of the meeting. Cindy tells me that I will need to spend the first three weeks by myself with the baby. Mothers have 9 months to bond with their baby and I need to make sure I have that bonding time. So, I went ahead and told my mother this to prepare her. Believe me this does not go over well. I will do some more research on this but was wondering what others thought. Any comments or thoughts?
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Just my two cents. These months being pregnant aren't bonding time. The first time I saw my son, I was wondering where he came from and felt no connection to him. It took a good 3 months to feel a connection to him. Keep in mind my mom came and stayed with us for the firt month, then my monther-in-law came and stayed the second month. So I finally got to spend the 3rd month with him and my husband trying to figure things out.
So, would you suggest time without parents first or later?
Wow. I can understand where Cindy was coming from, but I don't know what I would've done without my mom there to help out when Patrick was born. Granted, I was the one taking care of him, feeding him, changing his diaper, etc. She was there for moral support, company, (while Reed was working) and she did so much around the house. How old do you think the baby will be? This is a tough, tough question. Does this mean you can't have contact with ANY ONE at all during those first three weeks? That certainly doesn't seem realistic to me.
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