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This weekend I was told that I had to read two books about adoption. I was given one and was able to chose the other one. This will be part of passing my home study. The second book I chose was "Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother" by Jana Wolff.
This is a great book! It was a quick read but it hits all of the questions and thoughts that an adoptive mother may have with an open adoption. It discusses the feelings the adoptive mother has while waiting for the birth mother to give birth.
Will she decide to keep the baby after she seems him? Am I doing an injustice to a child if I am of a different race? What types of pictures to send the birth mom? Do you want the baby to look happy or just content? Will she want him back?
This is a book I would suggest to anyone who is thinking of adopting or who has adopted. I loved reading it and can say that I got a little teary eyed in some parts. If you want to borrow my copy let me know. You can go to tapestrybooks.com to find books about adoption. It is a great sources for adoptive parents and has many books for kids about adoption.
On Thursday, I headed off to Atlanta with my mom for a weekend intensive session on with the Independent Adoption Center. This is the center that I am using for the adoption. I arrived at the center at 9 o'clock in the morning to sit until 4:30. While I was learning, my mom got the opportunity to enjoy the Marriott in Norcross. Fun right? On Friday, I learned everything about designing my birth mother letter. When I saw one, I thought, "Piece of Cake!" Wow, was I wrong! There is so much that goes into designing and writing this letter. There are guidelines for pictures and the wording you use. It's a little crazy but it is all to help make this process easy for us and the birth moms.
During lunch we watched the show Adoption Diaries. This is a show on WE and it shops the adoption process with the Independent Adoption Center (IAC). They showed us one that went through the roller coaster of emotions. I think there was barely a dry eye in the room. It was great to get to watch what will happen. I am definitely going to try to watch the show more.
While Friday was very overwhelming, I learned a lot of information and was able to find answers to my questions. Saturday we were able to talk about the home study and all of the information and paperwork (yes, more paperwork) that has to be filled out. There is so much information to take in an absorb at one time. I am going to take this weekend and just think about the information that was given to me and then take the Thanksgiving break to start working on my birth mother letter.
I am heading out Thursday night to go to Atlanta to sign my adoption contract. This is scary for me. I am excited to sign the contract but it also is the start of it all. I am going to have to check what is acceptable to me in a child and their family and what is not. THIS IS HUGE! or at least it is to me. What do I say yes to? What do I say no to? These are big, forever decisions that scare me. I hope I make the right decisions. The only thing I know is to go with my instincts. I know that God will help me make the right decisions. I can't imagine Him giving me more than I can handle.
While that is scary, it is still exciting. I am going to get to work on the birth mother letter and make myself as lovable as possible. :) I look forward to writing the letter to the woman who will soon be handing over their child for me to love and raise. Wow! What do you say to that person? What words can express the gratitude I feel for this act of ultimate generosity?
In order to raise funds for my adoption, I am going to use PayPal to allow some lucky person to get $100 of free Pampered Chef product. You choose the products that you want. All of the money that is donated will go towards my adoption funds. Any extra money will be donated to the adoption agency that I am using in order to help another family adopt a child. Every dollar that is donated will be a chance for you to win the $100 of PC product. So, $5 = 5 chances. HEre is my website: www.pamperedchef.biz/emarshall
Please let everyone you know about this fundraiser. I am trying different ideas to help raise money to help with the adoption costs. I will run this fundraiser until December 15th. That will still give a lucky person time to get their products before Christmas. SPREAD THE WORD!
Oh my goodness! The paperwork is astounding. There is so much paperwork to be done for my home study. It is amazing how much has to be filled out and completed in order to have an adoption be able to happen. First, you have to fill out an autobiography, then a budget and all of the releases from SLED. It just seems to keep coming. The autobiography is a neat thing to feel out. This makes me think about myself as a person and becoming a parent. As interesting as it is, I wish the pile of paperwork would start getting smaller.
In order to get everything set up for my home study, I am working on getting the popcorn off the ceiling. Not that they look at the popcorn on the ceiling but some is coming off of my ceiling. I have worked on the part over my bathroom. It is a nasty job. Why was this type of ceiling ever invented? All I have to do now is finish the rest of my room and then paint it. This is a pain but I know it will be well worth it when it is done. Let me know if you guys have any tricks on making this easier.
I have found an awesome fundraiser that is eco-friendly and gives me 100 percent profit. It takes the old cell phones and PDA's that we all have hanging around our house and they recycle them. The company pays shipping and handling and then sends me a check. Some phones are worth a good amount of money and some not so much but every little bit helps. Not only do they take phones but home ink cartridges, the kind that fit in your hand. If you have any that you would like to donate, let me know and I'll find a way to get them from you. Thanks for your support!
I have decided to start this blog to let friends and family know about my adoption process! Here's the beginning!
A few months ago I decided to look into adopting. It is definitely not a decision that I made lightly. I thought about what it would be like to be a single mother and what my family would think about the decision I have made. I am at a place in my life where I want to be a mother. It is not the norm for single women to adopt but my feelings are that when I am meant to be married, I will be. I believe that I can give a child a safe and loving home. I want my children to be able to play with my nieces and nephews and my cousins' children.
After deciding that this is what I wanted to do, I spent a good bit of my summer break researching and talking with adoption agencies. Some places looked great online but when I spent time on the phone with them, it did not feel comfortable. Then I talked with the Independent Adoption Center in GA. I felt that they were really cared about me and the adoption process. Lauren, my counselor, talked to me for an hour and a half about the whole process. She told me what happens from beginning to end and what I should expect. I just felt that this was who I was supposed to work with through this exciting time.
I ended up waiting to fill in my application until school started. I needed to make sure that I had some money to help start this process. Man, it is amazing how much it costs to adopt a child and how cheap it is to just get pregnant. That still amazes me. Money is definitely the one thing that held back my start date for adoption. Once I knew I would be able to make the payments like I needed then I filled out my application. I knew that on a certain day they would be looking at my application in order to decide if I was accepted. I know so much more about myself and my finances now then I did before. This is a process I think everyone should have to go through before having or adopting children. It really makes you take stock of how you can care for a child.
So the Wednesday they were looking at my application, I kept checking my phone and my email and nothing. Then at about 4:50 p.m. while I was working in the after school program, I got a phone call. I answered it and was told that I was ACCEPTED! Lauren just did not have time to send my email out and wanted to make sure that I knew they accepted my application. I can now start the whole complete process. That was such a great day! I can only imagine it is similar to being told that you are pregnant. My wait may just be longer then the 9 months.
While that was an exciting day, now I am just in the waiting stages. I am getting my home study set up to be completed and will go Nov. 19th to sign the contract and make decisions to what type of child I want. This is exciting and a little nerve wracking. I am glad that it is something I get to do instead of waiting. I am trying to prepare myself for the waiting.